I have stated before, I've always been goal oriented. I need to see that I'm working towards something or what is the point of working? I think that is the problem I'm having now with the self-care group I'm in. He believes in goals but they are so nebulous and esoteric I have difficulty buying into them. This is one of his goals:
I want my body to be a direct reflection of my self-worth.
Which is awesome and should definitely be true for everyone but honestly, what the hell does that mean? How do I live that day to day?
So, as reflected in previous posts, I've been working on some goals that will work for me for the year. I'm in a headspace where I'm really ready to improve myself and make progress. I think for the last few years I haven't been there. Or more correctly, I've been trying to follow this self-care guy so much that I lost track of me. All of the self-care or self-help gurus in the world won't do a damn thing if you don't fit their message to you. So the primary thing with this one is mindfulness. That really resonates with me. Mindfulness. Be mindful. Don't live in the past or the present, live in the now. Don't let your life slip past you, pay attention and enjoy it. I love that message. I really, really do. But some of his other things, like that goal up there, really does not resonate with me at all. So I made up my own goals for the year and I really like them. They are things I want to work on for the entire year. I have goals with them, workout 3x a week, but it's not the end of the world if I don't make it every single week, that is a goal to work towards. More important is to make workouts a habit. 3x/week, 2x/week, 4x/week doesn't really matter how many times I go just that I go regularly and consistently. Anyway. I digress. The planner that I went back to this year has a passion roadmap in the front of it. I've always struggled with that because it is set up in time. In 3 months this is the goal, in 6 months this is the goal, in 1 year, in your lifetime, etc...... That has never really worked well for me for a lot of reasons. I think the primary one is that I'm older and therefore I don't have a lot of concrete long term goals. Like I see people filling those out with, get a better job, save for a down-payment on a house, get married, have 2 kids, etc. I don't have any of those kind of goals. I have a job I love and don't want to find another one. I have a house I love and don't ever want to move again. I don't want anymore kids. My goals are more immediate, is the only word I can think of. I need to make exercise a habit. I need to make self-care a rock solid habit (which it pretty much is). I need to quit sugar forever and not just for now. In my mind, my goals are things that are going to make the rest of my life better. Anyway, I digress again, I revamped the passion roadmap and did this:
I am pretty pleased with this. I have some concrete goals and I have some action steps to take to get there. This makes more sense to me. My health goal is to be able to do what I want, when I want, and not ask my body's permission. That is a lifetime goal but my action steps are what I want to accomplish this year. These steps will take me towards my ultimate goal. I will probably have the same goal next year, but there will be different action steps to take because I will be further on my journey towards that goal.
Then, on the next page, there is a focus goal. I'm going to focus this month on the health one and make those habits a priority. I'm also going to focus on my other goals, the health one will be the main focus. Other ones can fall by the wayside but the health will stay in the forefront.
Okay, I've had enough this morning. I overslept due to a coughing fit at 1am and I want to get some reading done.