I've been trying to do the same thing with the eating. Instead of beating myself up over what I should be eating, I'm focusing on what I want to eat. My menu yesterday looked like this:
Small piece of cake
Both last night and the night before over half of my dinner plate was taken up with green salad. I love salads but when I feel like I have to eat it I don't want to. I've also taken to using a smaller plate, except for my salads. I don't know what kind of plate it is but it's considerably smaller than our dinner plates. I put some food on there and it looks like a lot. So progress, slowly but progress. I'm trying to turn my body into a fat burner by eating healthier and smaller amounts. We'll see what happens...